Do you know people that you never take your problems to because you know they will not make you feel better? For example, you may know of someone that will always make you feel worse after talking to them? There have been times in my life when I have reached out to people during difficult times and have left after the conversation feeling worse about myself than before. We go to people looking for support, advice, comfort, but sometimes, people will blame us, criticize us, condemn us.
Job 8 is such a story. Poor Job has been crushed by what Satan has done to his life (all of his children have died, his livestock has perished, all of his wealth has been lost and he has been plagued with painful boils all over his body). He has reached out to his two friends, Bildad the Shuhite for comfort and support. Unfortunately, what he wanted wasn’t what he got! His two friends began to question Job about what Job had done to cause such trials in his life. In Job 8:20 his two friends declare, “20 Behold, God will not cast away the blameless, Nor will He uphold the evildoers.” This wasn’t the “don’t worry, everything will be alright” that Job was probably looking for. As you read through out the book of Job, his “friends” spend their time questioning and condemning Job for his role in the cause of all of these horrible events.
As I read this today, I said a prayer of thanksgiving for the fact that I do not have friends like this in my life. But, it is a reminder to us that we should also not be friends like this to other people. There will be times that we will need to hold someone accountable for their actions, identify how actions and consequences are related and even discuss responsibility for known sins. Regardless of the conversation we must have with people, we should also make sure that we always show that person God’s love, God’s kindness, God’s compassion. It is a great opportunity for us to reveal a little bit more of God to people. Remember John 8:7-11 “7 So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” 8 And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. 9 Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. 10 When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?” 11 She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”
We need to be the type of friend to others that Jesus was to us.
I pray for blessings today for you on your Journey!